How do I approach a child that is a victim of bullying?
You can approach a child who is showing the effects of being bullied, however, they will most likely approach you. If they show signs that they are uncomfortable, try and catch them after school sometime, and try to open a dialogue with them. If they come to trust you, they will talk with you more and more, and you may find what is bothering the child. Hi ???????? how is your day going today? How are you getting along in school? Some kids when they get home, they throw their school bag down and march to their room angry. For some kids it takes around a half an hour to open up and blurt it out, and for others, they just blurt it out offensively toward the parent. As a parent, we need to understand the details to their fullest, so be sure to ask as many questions as you can, and call the school to report what you have heard. Now saying that, talk to the school calmly, as many aren't aware of whats happened yet. It's understandable the parent is upset, but some administrations get the brunt end of it.
How do I get my child to talk to me?
First we as humans run 90% of the time on emotions, or what our likes and dislikes are in this world; much like that of our morals and values. At the same time the child may not be comfortable talking about what is going on with them, especially if the child is adopted. For children, they need to feel connected, loved, and protected for all other things to fall into place. If the child lacks any of those, they may find it very difficult to even open up at a very low level. However, the parental unit can build trust with the child, but most importantly is that you reward them for talking and discussing issues, and not letting them build up. Naturally, as children grow older, they will want more space between them and the parent, and it should be expected that they may not share things with the parent that is seen as embarrassing to them. Those who have very close relationship with the child, may have an open dialogue, but remember not to give advice that you are forcing on them, rather it should be communicated as a concern for them to consider.
How do I get a depressed child to talk about their issues?
First, the child in question has many aspects that they are thinking, and normally the depression has started from some cause, and sometimes it can occur naturally. However, the child that is depressed almost seems to want to stay that way, because if something is bothering them, it may be that they are trying to figure out why it is bothering them. So, you must first try to understand when it started happening, and if there was anything associated with the sudden depression of your child. You should consider the childs entire environment, at home, at school, and everywhere else. You should work with your child at a very young age to have open dialogue, and that helps the parent communicate better.
Another reason for depressed children is parent that will not pick and choose their battles, and therefore cause a lot of resentment toward the parent from the child. This is not to say that it is ok to let some things go by the way side, but creating a scene of a constant battle with a child can have it implications. First and foremost, the child will learn that it is very easy to get you upset, and the child will continue that process to get that attention. Redirecting your battle will show the child that you do not need to fight over things to get wanted attentions. Reward the good behavior with lots of attention, and the bad with less. If a child seeks attention, they will conform. What about being consistent with your child? This is oh so important and many couples cannot seem to get this right. YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT WITH THE RULES OF THE HOME. A child that lives in a home with no consistency will likely develop ODD Oppositional Defiance Disorder, and other things will likely follow. A good structured life does not mean that you have to reprimand a child for every little thing, they are exploring their environment, and some explanation can help them understand before they get into something dangerous around the home.
For years, I would observe my kids, and help them understand the good and bad to their surroundings, and they grew up to know better of touching certain things around the home. I also had trouble with my spouse helping keep the rules of the house, and the kids then were oppositional and went to the one that bent the rules to get their way. Kids are very sly and clever, and will find what suits them at that moment of need and want. As a parent we are here to guide them as to what is appropriate and what is not.
Why does my child have nightmares?
For this you will need to evaluate what if anything is happening to the child. If they are adopted, had a bad past, then it is very likely that they have had some abuse, and with that monsters appear in their dreams as manifestations to cover up the trauma. However, you should encourage the child to talk about what they remember from the dream, and show them lots of love. The younger the child, the faster they will bounce back. The older the child, the harder it is for them to rationally deal with what is happening in their mind. They must learn to acquire some critical thinking aspects in their life, and learn that it is not bad to reflect on their life. Many learn valuable lessens due to positive reflective thought, and may help to let go of what they went through. Although they will never forget most of it, at least it may get to a point where it is not always on their mind.
Also, children of all ages can have nightmares from watching scary movies, and usually happens a couple times in their childhood. So you see, nightmares are a reflection to something that is viewed, something that didn't settle well with them, and that it is a symptom of something. Some children are naturally scared of the dark, and their imagination can get them carried away with stuff in their room.
Why is there a lot of aggression around the home?
With this there is boundaries that are being violated, either personal boundaries, or area boundaries that the child expects the other to respect. Sometimes, children can be in the same room and playing well together, then one gets upset about something and the boundaries go back up. Aggression will come out because of the problem that upset the child, and hitting or exchanging of angry words will ensue. Teaching your children to hug and not hit will lessen some of the bad boundary areas, as well as giving them guidance to what is appropriate. A child can also be a symptom of one of the parents, one parent may show aggressive tendencies, and the child will learn and adapt to it as well. A child learns from their environment, and there may be factors there that are not favorable to what you are trying to teach them. If you want a positive oriented child, then they need positive peer relationships, even at school.
You can approach a child who is showing the effects of being bullied, however, they will most likely approach you. If they show signs that they are uncomfortable, try and catch them after school sometime, and try to open a dialogue with them. If they come to trust you, they will talk with you more and more, and you may find what is bothering the child. Hi ???????? how is your day going today? How are you getting along in school? Some kids when they get home, they throw their school bag down and march to their room angry. For some kids it takes around a half an hour to open up and blurt it out, and for others, they just blurt it out offensively toward the parent. As a parent, we need to understand the details to their fullest, so be sure to ask as many questions as you can, and call the school to report what you have heard. Now saying that, talk to the school calmly, as many aren't aware of whats happened yet. It's understandable the parent is upset, but some administrations get the brunt end of it.
How do I get my child to talk to me?
First we as humans run 90% of the time on emotions, or what our likes and dislikes are in this world; much like that of our morals and values. At the same time the child may not be comfortable talking about what is going on with them, especially if the child is adopted. For children, they need to feel connected, loved, and protected for all other things to fall into place. If the child lacks any of those, they may find it very difficult to even open up at a very low level. However, the parental unit can build trust with the child, but most importantly is that you reward them for talking and discussing issues, and not letting them build up. Naturally, as children grow older, they will want more space between them and the parent, and it should be expected that they may not share things with the parent that is seen as embarrassing to them. Those who have very close relationship with the child, may have an open dialogue, but remember not to give advice that you are forcing on them, rather it should be communicated as a concern for them to consider.
How do I get a depressed child to talk about their issues?
First, the child in question has many aspects that they are thinking, and normally the depression has started from some cause, and sometimes it can occur naturally. However, the child that is depressed almost seems to want to stay that way, because if something is bothering them, it may be that they are trying to figure out why it is bothering them. So, you must first try to understand when it started happening, and if there was anything associated with the sudden depression of your child. You should consider the childs entire environment, at home, at school, and everywhere else. You should work with your child at a very young age to have open dialogue, and that helps the parent communicate better.
Another reason for depressed children is parent that will not pick and choose their battles, and therefore cause a lot of resentment toward the parent from the child. This is not to say that it is ok to let some things go by the way side, but creating a scene of a constant battle with a child can have it implications. First and foremost, the child will learn that it is very easy to get you upset, and the child will continue that process to get that attention. Redirecting your battle will show the child that you do not need to fight over things to get wanted attentions. Reward the good behavior with lots of attention, and the bad with less. If a child seeks attention, they will conform. What about being consistent with your child? This is oh so important and many couples cannot seem to get this right. YOU HAVE TO BE CONSISTENT WITH THE RULES OF THE HOME. A child that lives in a home with no consistency will likely develop ODD Oppositional Defiance Disorder, and other things will likely follow. A good structured life does not mean that you have to reprimand a child for every little thing, they are exploring their environment, and some explanation can help them understand before they get into something dangerous around the home.
For years, I would observe my kids, and help them understand the good and bad to their surroundings, and they grew up to know better of touching certain things around the home. I also had trouble with my spouse helping keep the rules of the house, and the kids then were oppositional and went to the one that bent the rules to get their way. Kids are very sly and clever, and will find what suits them at that moment of need and want. As a parent we are here to guide them as to what is appropriate and what is not.
Why does my child have nightmares?
For this you will need to evaluate what if anything is happening to the child. If they are adopted, had a bad past, then it is very likely that they have had some abuse, and with that monsters appear in their dreams as manifestations to cover up the trauma. However, you should encourage the child to talk about what they remember from the dream, and show them lots of love. The younger the child, the faster they will bounce back. The older the child, the harder it is for them to rationally deal with what is happening in their mind. They must learn to acquire some critical thinking aspects in their life, and learn that it is not bad to reflect on their life. Many learn valuable lessens due to positive reflective thought, and may help to let go of what they went through. Although they will never forget most of it, at least it may get to a point where it is not always on their mind.
Also, children of all ages can have nightmares from watching scary movies, and usually happens a couple times in their childhood. So you see, nightmares are a reflection to something that is viewed, something that didn't settle well with them, and that it is a symptom of something. Some children are naturally scared of the dark, and their imagination can get them carried away with stuff in their room.
Why is there a lot of aggression around the home?
With this there is boundaries that are being violated, either personal boundaries, or area boundaries that the child expects the other to respect. Sometimes, children can be in the same room and playing well together, then one gets upset about something and the boundaries go back up. Aggression will come out because of the problem that upset the child, and hitting or exchanging of angry words will ensue. Teaching your children to hug and not hit will lessen some of the bad boundary areas, as well as giving them guidance to what is appropriate. A child can also be a symptom of one of the parents, one parent may show aggressive tendencies, and the child will learn and adapt to it as well. A child learns from their environment, and there may be factors there that are not favorable to what you are trying to teach them. If you want a positive oriented child, then they need positive peer relationships, even at school.